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Grief support

Walking with you through loss

Gentle, faith-rooted bereavement support — one-to-one and in small groups, entirely online. Wherever you are in the world, and however recent or long-ago your loss, you are welcome.

Two ways to be supported

One ministry, gently held — choose whichever meets you where you are today.

Not sure which is right?

Let Jem gently help you find your path

Jem

A gentle guide to your path — no cost, no obligation.

Hi, I'm Jem. If you're not sure whether Pelumi (one-to-one) or Cherish (a small group) is right, I can help — just a few gentle questions, and there are no wrong answers.

One-to-one · Online

Pelumi

1:1 grief support

£250 — the journey · £50 a session

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A private journey, just for you

A private, tailored journey — just you and your guide, over five weekly sessions of an hour, held gently and at your own pace.

  • A tailored, private journey — just you and your guide.
  • Five weekly sessions, an hour each, on Zoom.
  • A gentle connection call first, so your guide knows your story.
  • £50 per session — £250 for the five-week journey.

Small group (max 10) · Online

Cherish

Group grief support

£300 — six weeks · £60 a session

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Grieve together, in a small circle

A small, intimate group — never more than ten — meeting weekly to grieve together, share safely, and build a little community of support.

  • A small group — never more than ten — so everyone can be heard.
  • Weekly sessions over six weeks, on Zoom.
  • A gentle connection call first, so you know it's the right fit.
  • £60 a session — £300 for the six-week group, with the final week free.

We offer presence before answers — that you would not have to carry your grief alone.

Purpose in Pain

The five-session shape

A session-by-session journey

This is a space made for you. Each session is shaped around what you need in the moment, and the journey unfolds at your pace.

Faith is part of the rhythm here — not heavy, not forced, just naturally woven through the work. It comes from Atinuke's own story, her lived experience, and the way she's learned to walk through life with hope. That's the heart behind every session.

Think of this as a gentle companion on your way forward. A space to explore, heal, and grow with someone who understands that transformation doesn't happen overnight. It happens slowly, quietly, and with care.

  1. Love & loss

    Grief is the slow, confusing, aching part of love that no one prepares you for — and it's completely normal to feel the way you do.

    You don't have to rush through it or make sense of it all at once. Part of this journey is simply learning what grief is, how it shows up, and why it feels the way it does.

    And through all of it, God isn't waiting for you on the other side. He's with you in the loss — in the fog, in the questions, in the quiet moments when everything feels heavy.

    You're not walking this alone.

  2. The waves of grief

    Grief doesn't stay still — it comes and goes, rising and falling in ways that can feel unpredictable. Those physical, emotional, and mental shifts you're experiencing aren't signs that something is wrong; they're part of how grief moves through a person. It really does come in waves.

    As you learn to recognise those waves, you also learn that you don't have to hold everything in. Lament gives you a faithful way to bring your raw, unfiltered feelings to God — not polished, not tidy, just honest. It's a way of saying, "This is where I am," and trusting that He meets you there.

  3. Anger, guilt & the hard questions

    There are parts of grief that feel heavier and harder to talk about — the anger, the guilt, and all the "why" questions that sit quietly underneath everything. These emotions deserve space too.

    Here, you're invited to bring them into the open without shame. They can be held honestly, with grace instead of guilt, and without the pressure to tidy them up or explain them away.

    This is where the deeper questions can be asked, and where you're met with compassion rather than judgment.

  4. Grief and the people around us

    Grief can make you feel cut off from others, even from the people you love most. It changes your energy, your needs, and sometimes your capacity to connect — and that can put strain on relationships in ways you never expected.

    Part of this journey is easing that sense of isolation and understanding how grief affects the way we relate to others. It's also about slowly building a small circle of support — people who can sit with you, check in on you, and hold space for what you're carrying.

    That kind of community is at the heart of Cherish: gentle, steady support so you don't have to walk through this alone.

  5. Adjusting, hope & purpose in the pain

    Looking ahead doesn't mean "moving on" or leaving your person behind. It's about finding small ways to carry their love with you, even as life slowly shifts around the loss.

    This part of the journey is about adjusting with care — letting hope return in quiet moments, and discovering purpose that can sit alongside the pain rather than replace it.

Purpose in Pain is a Christian, faith-based ministry. Faith is woven gently through every session — and everyone is welcome, whatever your beliefs.

The gentlest first step is a free connection call — or simply get in touch. There's no pressure, and no obligation.

Not a crisis service

Purpose in Pain offers gentle grief support — it is not an emergency or crisis service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services right away, or see urgent help.